The Empowered Feminine

STUCK

What a word. When you think of the word STUCK what feelings or images do you get inside? Look at the picture of the dog to the left; what comes up for you?

For one, I get claustrophobic. I also get antsy. Other times I might feel nauseous, or anxious, or just drained from trying to get loose and nothing happening. Being STUCK is also a very vulnerable place to be in. You are frozen, you cannot move, fight or run away if danger presents itself.

Webster’s dictionary describes the adjective STUCK as “firmly positioned in place and difficult to dislodge”. Its definitely an uncomfortable place to be in physically.

What happens when I feel STUCK emotionally or mentally to make any changes in my life? It seems the energy that I once had to create my life has decided to take on a life of its own and ignore my plans, goals, ideas, and motivations. This STUCKness just sits there mocking me that I am not doing anything important with my life. WHAT GIVES?

Why am I stuck and why can’t I get anywhere other than where I am at? What happened to me???

My mind conspires why I might be stuck:

1. The Universe is conspiring against me.
2. The timing is off. All the time.
3. The Universe is not benevolent, it hates me.
4. There is nothing interesting anymore out there worth my effort.
5. I am comfortable where I am at, but I feel uncomfortable.
6. Someone put an evil spell on me.
7. Been there, done that, nothing more interesting to do or see, but I miss feeling being in action.
8. People used to only live to be 50, so why bother? Maybe I will suffer the same fate.
9. Ageism, I’m just old.
10. I just don’t know where I fit in anywhere else in the world!
11. Does my life make a difference?
12. Do I care if my life makes a difference?
13. My life was founded on taking care of others. Now all the others are gone. Now what?
14. I have no clue what will fly in this economy, so why try?
15. I’m embarrassed that Im stuck – whaaaaa!!!!

My mind creates so many different possibilities, but none of them may be correct. My mind is like a truck that got stuck in a muddy hole. I will try to dig my way out, I will spin my wheels. Nothing helps and it may even make the matter worse.

So what do you do when your truck is stuck in a hole? STOP spinning your wheels, STOP digging! Get help!

Naming Stuck Energy

The BEST thing to do with the thoughts of energy and stuckness is to share it with others. Name it! To get a new life, we must come to terms with the current life. We have to name what it is about the current life that we are not satisfied with, and inquire into what we might do to make ourselves more satisfied.

What IS this energy that has me feel stuck? And why do so many of us feel it so strongly right now? From people Occupying America to protests in Egypt and Syria’s streets, all sentient beings on the planet are feeling this energy. We want more, but we don’t know exactly what it is and what life would be if we had it.

We have the illusion of safety and security and a great job, but so many of us have had that and are bored with it. People get divorced over boredom gone to extreme. Desperate housewives want their husbands to make more money, but when they don’t get it, they move on to another. But are they ever satisfied? Do they ever really get what they want? Does the woman with the most jewels really win? Is she the most happiest? What does Elizabeth Taylor and her nine marriages have to say about that?

Liz actually said, “I adore wearing gems, but not because they are mine. You can’t possess radiance, you can only admire it.” Did Liz understand with all her wealth that a person really mostly wants recognition for being radiant? Recognition for being smart, beautiful, witty, good, fabulous, patient? What if we all could find something GOOD to say about each other – what difference would it make for our feeling of being stuck or not?

We might try to take a metaphysical approach and tell ourselves “There is a reason for everything” or “I’m burning karma”. We might even be going through a certain type of soul transformation that needs time to complete its process. What is it we are learning through this process?

STOP!

Being stuck is different than procrastination. You aren’t lacking discipline, determination or perseverance. Being stuck is an opportunity to look at your life in a different way. Being stuck:

1. Lets you retreat and reflect on what you really want.
2. Lets an unconscious or underlying issue or fear come to the surface.
3. Gives you others the opportunity to help you. Tell people you feel stuck.
4. Gives you time to rest and be still. Give yourself time for sleep, stillness, tranquility.
5. Gives you an opportunity to deal with any physical issues that might be holding you back. Its an excellent time to take on a new activity or exercise regimen.
6. Gives you time to step out of the addiction of action for action’s sake.
7. Give you the opportunity to stop and smell the roses, do your hair or nails, or pluck your eyebrows.

So what should you do about this feeling stuck? Sit with the feeling. Identify its energy, shape, size, what it reminds you of. Embrace it and let it relax. Identify all the feelings and reasons for feeling stuck and then… STOP thinking about being stuck. Its not the kind of feeling that you can solve.

Being stuck seems to disappear when we embrace it and let it be.

As healers and empaths, so many of us have spent our lives pulling up those people who are energetically unhealthy, miserable, and victim oriented. Recently many of us have realized we need to focus on building relationships with mature people who possess healthy and wise energy, because we feel so much better in our higher essence.

Many of us were born a sunshiney, big hearted person with a propensity for energetic healing. As many of you have experienced, this can be heartbreaking when we start to absorb another person’s energy while trying to love and heal their wounds, then they turn on us and attack us. That sunshine gets clouded, and we feel depressed. But investigating deeper, we realize we absorbed our attacker’s sad, angry and helpless energy.

Often, we will make comments born out of confidence, belief in our own worth, and a spiritual orientation – and the people around us flame us, reject us, and dismiss us as something very ugly and unlovable. Like a pack of rabid wolves, they turned our inner sunshine around like all we are about is ego and materialism.

We become confused because our intent is to help those who are hurting. We are feeling that we are giving and loving – connecting with others who need our help. It feels as though they are turning on us when we thought they were our friend. But were they really our friend to begin with?

We must always keep the concept of projection in mind. When someone sees something ugly within us that we do not recognize, we must understand that they are seeing something in their own self that they cannot be with, so are blinded by their own unresolved issues. If we are being accused of harm when no harm was intended, we see that person telling us a deep wound they have yet to resolve within themself.

Being very empathic, we often become sad and distressed at other’s attacks. But we need to realize time and time again, that this energy is not ours, but that of sad, angry people who feel helpless in their own situation. They see the sunshiney, healing energy of an empath as fake, overly idealistic, and untrue. An empathic healer’s challenge is to not take the other’s judgments personally, and find other people who are interested in being sunshine-y and healing in order to make something happen.

Empaths are naturally giving, loving and would do anything to help support their family and friends. We need to understand that not all people are like this. Do they have this capacity? Yes, I think they do, but they need to want it for themself on their own path of discovery. We cannot make them see a better way, all we can do is keep offering our sunshine. As a gift, not a compulsion. By living our lives well, being healthy and happy, and by healing those who want to be healed.

Spirit talks to us through our bodies. We get internal sensations based on what our intuition knows is healthy for us or unhealthy. We need to take the time to stop and listen.

Thank you for the blessings that you all are.